"The “distraction” theory behind public school dress codes is flawed on a number of levels. It interferes with girls’ educational time and causes embarrassment. It also puts the burden of boys’ self-control on girls. But schools and teachers who are trying to protect boys from being allegedly “distracted” are making also erroneous assumptions about the effects of girls dress. If girls’ outfits do cause a reaction in boys, schools aren’t just getting their priorities wrong, they’re ignoring aggression, which is a different and more serious problem. Schools are putting resources and authority behind shaming girls instead of taking the opportunity to educate teenagers about consent and gendered intimidation.

What exactly are adults assuming about “distraction”? Are they talking about boys being sexually aroused? Boys having romantic feelings? Looking at girls? Boys aren’t just passive sacks of hormones, magnetically thrown off course by female parts or pheromones. Young men and boys are responsible for their own arousal, attraction and attention span. Controlling girls’ dress assumes that boys are more frequently or severely distracted just by being around girls than any other source of distraction and that the only way to fix it is to control the girls."

Source: bitchmagazine.org




when did we replace the word “said” with “was like”

When it occured to us that “said” implies a direct quote, while “was like” clarifies that you mean to communicate the person’s tone and general point without quoting them word for word.


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Golden Kukri Snake - Oligodon cinereus

With about 75 currently recognized species, the genus Oligodon (Colubridae) is one of the largest genera of Asiatic snakes. It is widespread throughout tropical south and southeast Asia. 

The geographic distribution of Oligodon is complex, and also its taxonomy. Several species are widespread and many have overlapping ranges. Oligodon cinereus (in the photo) is in fact a complex species with a highly variable coloring pattern.

These non-venomous snakes are usually nocturnal and often brightly colored. They feed primarily on the eggs of birds and reptiles. The morphology of their teeth is very effective for cutting open eggs, so much that the common name of the kukuri snakes derives from a distinctively shaped Nepalese knife, the kukri, because the hind teeth of the snakes are broad and strongly recurved, much like the shape of the kukri.

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Photo credit: ©Anne Devan-Song | Locality: Hong Kong (2012)

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How to Write Women of Colour and Men of Colour if you are White

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I think the “women are mysterious” thing can also come from:

1) Women actually being quite clear, but not telling men what they want to hear.  ”She said she doesn’t want to talk to me?  So many mixed messages and confusing signals!”

2) Women not having cheat codes.  ”I tried being nice, and she didn’t have sex with me.  I tried being an asshole, and she didn’t have sex with me.  Come on, there’s got to be some kind of solution to this puzzle!”

3) Women not being a hive mind.  ”First a woman told me that she likes guys with big muscles.  Then the very next day a woman told me she thinks muscles aren’t attractive at all.  Make up your mind, women!”

4) An individual woman doing something confusing, and instead of asking “why is she doing this now?” men ask “why do women always do this?”

5) Women sometimes don’t say what they’re really thinking/feeling because society has taught us that certain emotions and reactions are unacceptable (i.e. you must be nice to men even when they’re creeps because man feelings are delicate and must be protected at all costs).

6) Women sometimes don’t say what they’re really thinking/feeling because we’re used to our thoughts and emotions being invalidated and can learn to invalidate them ourselves.

7) You didn’t even fucking ask. 

8) You see women as NPCs instead of people, so when they act like people you’re surprised and wonder how such a sophisticated NPC can exist and what algorithms drive it, instead of interacting with her as a human being.

I’m pretty sure I’ve already posted this, but there are new and fabulous comments now…

Need this picture right now.

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Walking with the Old Gods


Tonight I looked up at the stars

And they shined back at me

At my soul, through the darkness

Across the echoes of time

I walk with the old gods

Hand-in-hand through the ages

To distant shores and new horizons

Eyes open to unspoken knowledge

A streak of light across the sky

Whispers in my…

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Do you get head tinglies during haircuts? Do pages turning or paper crinkling give you an unexplainable buzz? Friend, you may be experiencing ASMR. Read all about it in Grace Allison’s guest comic on Oh Joy Sex Toy!

This comic brought to you by the support of my patrons on Patreon, thanks guys!

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I’m writing this blog for anyone who finds it useful.

I want people to listen to me.

This isn’t an autism-specific or disability-specific blog. It is ok to reblog and comment on things, no matter who you are or what categories you fall into.

It’s ok if you think something is applicable to you, even if I’m describing it in the context of it being something I notice about autism. It’s not appropriation. It’s listening.

It is ok to ask questions.

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"So when Anita Sarkeesian tweeted that “gamergate is the new name for a group that has been harassing me for 2 years,” she was factually correct. Many of the most consistent users of #GamerGate are inextricably linked to harassment of Ms. Sarkeesian and other women. I’ve just shown you 20 of them, all of whom are happily welcomed into the GamerGate movement and not censured in any way for their actions. I’m sure this list will grow as more people share their experiences.

These people have spent the last two years harassing and demeaning women in and out of the games industry. You know what they haven’t spent the last two years doing? Talking about ethics in journalism.

There may be ethical, honest people involved in #GamerGate. But a few good apples won’t magically make a rotten barrel edible. And #GamerGate is rotten to the core."


The Bad Apples Of #GamerGate — Medium

Unsurprisingly, it’s not just sexism. It’s racism, homophobia, anti-Semitism, and ableism too.

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Source: medium.com